It has come to my attention lately that my hub and I are the only normal parents that we know. Really. We actually spend time with our kids. We don't bitch about that like it's an unforgivable sin that we are "stuck with these damn kids". We LIKE ours. We don't pawn ours off on others. If we can't take them with us to a function, or leave them safely at home for a little smidge of time, we just don't go. We don't take turns with the parenting duties. I don't resent my hub nor do I tell him that it's his turn because raising responsible and loving kids is a joint effort...a 24/7 joint effort. Although I do sometimes require a time out so I don't blow a gasket...these are few and far between for me.
I plan my days around doing things with the kids and I try really hard to make sure that the three of them know how absolutely cool that I think they are. My kids are appreciated and loved...and they know that. I don't bitch about what a huge burden they are to me. It was my choice and privilege to become a Mom and I am kinda digging that job. In all of its ups and downs.
I know people who "can't cope" with their kids so they "take breaks" from them.(Ie: ship them off to family and friends to deal with) What does that say to your kids? I think it screams "I don't want to put in efforts for you nor am I willing to stick by you for the hard stuff". Yeah. Feel that love.
I protect them at all costs...even if that means letting them learn tough lessons. Only I stand next to them while they learn those lessons. I am honest with my kids and I am open with them about all that life is tossing around.
My issue lately is...as i slowly realize how insane some of the families around us are...its getting kinda lonely. Would an ad on Craigslist be out of the question?
Adventurous Mom of teens and pre teens looking for other fwk (families with kids) to hang out and otherwise befriend. Kids must possess an innate sense of humor, a brain and the ability to laugh without being a big, fat crybaby. Whining is not tolerated in any circumstance. Couple must be supportive of each other, not mind PDA's of others and not spend their time explaining what a worthless piece of shit your partner is. Sexual orientation not a factor. Values and morals are a must.
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LOL! I love this post. I was just thinking how my parenting style is so much different then my neighbor friends next door. She's only a young'n that mama, at 19, but she has two kids: 16 month old and a 2 month old. She ships them off to her moms every weekend, and then inbetween that time they are either at my house, or anyone else in the neighbor that will keep an eye on them. It's not that she doesn't love them, but she is a "princess type" all about herself, even though every penny she has go's to her kids. She's going to be that friend mom where her kids walk all over her.. that's for sure. Get this though.. she's already trying for number 3. Her goal is 5-6 kiddos.
Damn I'm rambling.. LOL See what you to do me girl? ;)
Wow! You guys are freaks! ;-)
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